4 Main Stress Triggers : What or who should we blame?

Number 1- Emotional Stressors: Is our society’s conditioning to blame?         

Emotional Stress

                    Emotional Stress

Stress is the term we give to our experience of stressors, so what are stressors?What causes our systems to work harder with less energy to try to maintain a healthy non-toxic environment?

 Emotions are the number one cause of stress. Our Society’s conditioning toward emotionally supporting each other has led to a society with very unhealthy habits of emotional expression. Anxiety, depression and fear are compounded by threats to self-esteem.

Touch is the oldest and most potent form of emotional support. Everybody on the planet is suffering from their own specific version of “I’m not good enough, or lack of self acceptance.”  On the other hand touch is interpreted by your physical body as “I accept you exactly as you are, right here right now.”

Pain, the second highest trigger for stress

 Stressor 5Pain from injury and disease are the second highest cause of stress. it is now widely believed that painful psychosomatic conditions such as fibromyalgia are emotionally based. Massage causes your body to release endorphins which is your body’s natural pain killer and healing hormones

Stress Trigger number 3– Toxic substances and stimulants

Excessive intake of toxins such as medication and stimulants is number Stressors 6three on the list of stressors,it’s amazing considering how tough and disease resistant indigenous people are. It really is incredible how wrong or misguided we are with regard to who we are and how we function and behave for optimal life experiences.

Massage increases circulation which flushes our our system and tissues, it also induces homeostasis which enables the body to detoxify itself naturally. Lymph massage is an excellent way to boost your immune system while helping the body to flush toxins.

Environmental exposure the fourth trigger

Environmental exposure to stressors is number four on the list. Massage increases our immune system helping us to meet daily stressors in our stride.  Number 5 and last but  not least is pathology, distress producing pathology’s are awful for those experiencing them but in general pathology only makes up a tiny fraction of a percentage of stress in our population. People with a distressing pathology have already discovered massage and have already made the massage lifestyle choice.

So there it is, we have mental stress and physical stress, most of which is a product of our society. Everyone has their own unique stress re-activity, a combination of internal responses, sometimes seemingly completely unrelated to the internal or external stressor or trigger. Conditions like hair loss and other such conditions that doctors can’t explain are attributed to this non-specific stress re-activity.We are exceptionally well designed to deal with short bursts of even extreme stressors. Just like a zebra being chased by a lion, the zebras stress re-activity, like our own stress re-activity is rapid and efficient.

If Prolonged Stress is the problem

Using Massage as Your Medicine is The Answer

Stressors 3Prolonged stress is the problem, how to recognize and deal with it is the answer. Situations of prolonged stress such as divorce or job loss can wear down our mental, emotional and physiological stress re-activity; in short we become sickly, grumpy and emotionally over reactive to even small minor stressors or triggers. Our immune system is compromised, our digestion is thwarted and our sleep pattern is affected.

Chronic intermittent exposure to mild, moderate and high stressors such as work, deadlines or exams will result in the same sickly, depressed and over reactive emotional responses. Which makes me wonder if teenagers are actually going through a “phase” or is it more likely the accumulated affects of stress?

Chronic stress, such as skipping breakfast,  a horrible commute to work, poor work environment, finances, relationships, over the years all add up to poor mental efficiency, ill health and irritability, all commonly know as good days and bad days syndrome. Good days and bad days are not how we were intended to experience life. We are designed to have upward of 98% good days.

In the previous post we wrote about mammals living 12 times their sexual maturity age, that means that living to be 144 would be something to look forward to if 98% of our day were stress free.

The remedy is literally in your hands. Massage clinically reduces stress, induces relaxation mentally, physically and emotionally. Relaxation is the cure (that’s why they have beds in hospitals.) A massage lifestyle can create the life-saving habit of relaxation.

Stress Reduction is in your hands

Stress Reduction is in your hands

We invite your comments and questions about stressors and triggers. What is your first line of defense against stress? How do you remedy stress?

Discover our relaxation treatment and give us a call to learn more about other types of massage and energy medicine that can assist in your total relaxation. Our studio is designed for your ultimate experience, in fact we are dedicated to providing you a unique experience every single time.

Thrive or Survive: Massage & Extreme Self Care


Thriving and surviving are reflections of our subconscious attitudes, attitudes of self worth and poor opinions on life and what it should be. We don’t make our choices based on our reality; we make our reality based on our choices. Our emotions dictate our actions, but science has proven that our actions will dictate our emotions. Act happy to be happy. Thriving and surviving are both choices, surprisingly; just getting by takes way more energy than thriving.

People who thrive take good care of themselves and I am saying that people who choose to take good care of themselves will thrive. Small lifestyle changes like massage for health have a huge positive snow ball effect on every aspect of our lives.Massage Therapy, a mind, body experience

Our emotional energy creates our reality, the stories we tell ourselves create our emotional energy and we act accordingly. Acting, for example “fake it until you become it” is a proven road to success. If you physically express something you will generate the matching emotions and create that reality, this is the law of attraction.

Mohammad Ali took this a step further; he always did a power pose, arms raised above his head in triumph when he declared” I am the greatest”, and he did this before he won anything. So physical expression and physical action create physical reality. If you choose massage  as a conscious mental and physical expression of self love and acceptance the universe will read this as an” I choose to thrive” statement  and your reality will reflect this, it’s a universal law. As a result of the massage you will generate the same emotional energy as those that do thrive and like magic the universe will match your reality to your energetic vibration. If you are waiting to be a success before you take care of yourself, “spoiler alert”, it’s not going to happen. “Happiness comes before success”.

Taking care of yourself, choosing to thrive now, mimicking the life choices of those that do thrive is a guaranteed recipe for success, Certified Life Coach Sue Birkam has coached me and this is what she has to say. , “When we are not thriving we have bought into a belief system that no longer serves us and we make choices and decisions about what life “should” be based on the perceptions of these beliefs.”

When we decide to unlearn the beliefs and habits that no longer serve us only then can we re-write our new life script. Before we can explore the rooted patterns of beliefs that have driven our lives up to this point, it is fundamentally important to start with selfishly motivated self-care and cease putting others agendas before our own.hyp

If we deny ourselves self-care we have less of a chance of having the energy or the capacity to thrive and instead find ourselves in survival mode. Self-Care is essential as it is simply meeting our basic needs. When you think of self-care you may think of eating, resting, taking time for ourselves—all accurate.  In order to truly thrive instead of survive; the opportunity exists for a level of extreme self-care that you may not have considered.  This includes stress elimination not stress management,  emotional , mental and spiritual balance,  self-empowerment, setting wider boundaries, physical attention including healthy eating, exercise, regular expert massage, meditation, proper breathing, your home and work environment and significant  but often never achieved is the ability allow pleasure into our lives.  Do you Thrive?  Or are you merely surviving just to get by? . . . .


I believe that we are a soul with a physical body to expresses our authentic selves. When we physically express our authentic personalities we thrive and experience
vitality. When we physically express attitudes that are not in alignment with our unconditional authentic selves we experience stress.

Stress is defined as two opposing forces pulling away from each other.  We have an authentic personality and what some call a fear based or ego personality. No matter how clever we try to become our ego based personality cannot change our authentic personality. All the effort we make to not follow our authentic personality results in the stress that we experience in our physical bodies, hence the expression “we keep our issues in our tissues”.
Healing HandsAt our massage studio in Berkley we practice Clinical or western medical massage
and Holistic massage techniques, i.e. Reiki and Thai massage. After a massage, our clients are treated to tea and encouraged to relax, allowing their treatment to integrate and really soak into their bodies, even our clinical clients are encouraged to journal and expect emotional energies to surface. This is because our physical bodies mirror our emotional bodies, and when you remove the toxins and release the tense muscles caused by stress the emotional energy naturally comes to the surface in order to release as well. If you are aware of this and are willing to let go of the attitudes that caused the stress in the first place, massage, is an amazingly healing process. If the connection isn’t made, you will blame the tense muscle in the same place all the time on the physical rigors of life.

The ancient Toltec believed that as spiritual beings we have the power to create our personal realities, and those we created through physical expression, especially through our words. Our words are an expression of our subconscious beliefs, or
more accurately what we choose or agree to believe. When we agree with someone we share their reality. I believe that people inherit or grow into the attitudes that cause bad backs or knees rather than inherit genetic bad ailments. I read that Hawaiians once used massage and energy healing to remove every physical, emotional and mental trauma from adolescents in a ceremony to prepare them for the adult journey of their lives, like  a clean slate. I’m sure this looked like magic to the first visitors to the islands, but it made me think about all the dysfunctional beliefs I could be carrying from childhood into adulthood, more
importantly how these subconscious beliefs affect my life now, and how can I release them permanently.

The earliest physicians used massage and diet as their main arsenal against disease and illness, responsible for the health of emperors in ancient Japan these healers were on call 24 hours and ranked very high in courtly life. They’re earliest
writings and medical texts on massage all describe beginning treatments with a prayer, addressing the spiritual body first, then the emotional, the mental and the physical. They knew that understanding the spiritual, emotional and mental was just as important as physical knowledge of the body.We experience emotional energy flowing through our bodies every second, yet the connection between physical health and emotional health is greatly overlooked.Massage relaxing vector art

We spend billions of dollars dissecting cells and dosing them with chemicals aiming for results that ancient wisdom tells us can only come from within.We have all heard that chicken soup cures a cold, but few make the connection that a good diet is good for a life, this is the same for massage, a massage is great when you want to feel better but regular massage is better if you want to feel great. We are just not used to feeling good most of the time, it’s like we have forgotten that feeling good is our natural state. When you are feeling good you’re thinking well, and if your thoughts are creating your reality then feeling good is the answer to changing your reality, not vice versa. Massage is 100% potent, feel good, all natural, clinical medicine.

Think about how your emotional stress affects your physical well being and what you do to release it . . .?